Category: Family

  • Dear Millenial-Haters: Say Thank You

    I believe in my daughters. I believe in their generation. I believe in the creativity and passion that keeps them going in the face of all the hate they have engendered for simply growing up in our houses, with our values, and in a society and economy that taught them to suck it up and accept less. And then they didn't.

  • Dear Senators Murkowski and Collins: Thank You!

    I've tried to tell my Senator, Todd Young, what the ACA has done for my family, but he's not interested in listening to constituents that don't agree with him. As one public figure might say, SAD! But I also know from friends who are solely self-employed that the ACA is not perfect. Premiums are too high because of the complete coverage offered. I get that. I understand that. I understand that the ACA is not perfect.

  • I want you to read this book

    I came away from this book wondering all the ways I used shame as my children were growing up—shaming them, shaming myself, amplifying the “bad” behavior. It’s only recently, as my children have become women, that I recognize all the signs of ignoring the why while focusing on how that why manifests.

  • Watermelon Days

    It was a chilly day for summer, but still I sat on the deck as the wind ruffled the pages of the book I was reading and tried (and failed) to keep the watermelon juice off the pages. I had cut the watermelon the way my mother always did: in half, then halving the half, then halving the fourth, so… Continue reading "Watermelon Days"

  • What’s Beautiful Here

    What’s beautiful here is a house whose furniture belongs in a house of old, old things and old, old people. Broken or nearly-so. Fragile fabrics, like thin skin, bruising at every brush of a knuckle or seemingly kind word. What’s beautiful here, where everything seems to be lightly stitched and held by twines and tufts of cat hair and dust.… Continue reading "What’s Beautiful Here"

  • #UULent: Love

    I’ve been ruminating on love today, a day where I am home alone with three cats who have been insisting, in turns, on being adored. But I went to the stored photos on my phone, thinking I could find a suitable selfie with my husband as my “love image.” And I did, but then I found this: taken as my… Continue reading "#UULent: Love"

  • In the Middle

    Today is the day! Release day for an anthology of essays written by some really thoughtful writers and compiled by excellent editors. Here in the Middle is a collection of stories about what has sometimes been called the “Sandwich generation.” But it isn’t really about a generation, it’s about a time in life when mothers and fathers find themselves involved deeply in… Continue reading "In the Middle"

  • 92. Pad See Ew and You

    Thai food is a treat almost as much as seeing you, my love, my baby, my friend. How lovely to look up from my noodles that slap my face and soil my shirt to see you there, looking back at me. Precious, rare, sweet and spicy– pad see ew and you.